Tipful Tuesday: The Role of a Usher

We’ve been asked recently about proper usher requirements, so we thought we’d share with the masses…


Proper Wedding Usher Instruction

  • Ushers should be waiting at the door, as soon as someone signs the guest book he should extend his right arm for the lady and ask if she will be sitting on the bride or grooms side, if not using open seating.
  • If there is more than one woman, you should escort the oldest woman down the aisle.
  • Front sections are reserved for immediate family.
  • Seat anyone who comes in late towards the back.
  • Seat everyone except the parents of the bride and groom and grandparents or any special family members that may be escorted during the processional.
  • When you get the signal that everyone is ready, seat the groom’s parents on the front right. Then seat the mother of the bride on the front left.

After the wedding

  • After all the wedding party has exited (the minister will be last), two ushers should walk together up to the front, and stop immediately in front of where the parents of the bride and groom are seated. They should both turn toward the outside of the building and face toward the back. The usher beside the bride’s mother should extend his arm to her, and escort her out.
  • After the bride’s mother has gone a suitable distance (at least half of the length of the aisle), the remaining usher should extend his arm to the groom’s mother, then escort the groom’s parents out.
  • Both ushers should now return together to the front and usher out the grandparents in the same fashion as the parents were escorted out.